Preparing to get married can be one of the most wonderful experiences of a couple’s life. But it can also be a stressful time with so much for couples to plan and to do. Sometimes doing a marriage preparation course can be the last thing they want to think about. Some couples resent the very idea; others look for the quickest and easiest way to get it over with. Some don’t see the point in wasting time and money when other things are more important.
In the world we live in big decisions in life have to be planned for. We take time to ensure firstly it’s the right decision, whether it’s about our career or decisions that will impact on our daily lives. Is marriage any different? Many couples believe they know all there is to know about each other. Is that a good starting point for marriage? What happens for the next fifty plus years when there is nothing more to learn about other person? So often couples preparing for marriage get caught up in the wedding day event and don’t reflect or think about the life time journey together.
Marriage is a journey not a destination. Getting married is the beginning of a life time commitment to grow in love and to learn about each other in love as we face some of the elements life may throw at us. Taking time out to prepare and think about this decision to spend your life committed to someone whom you love is indeed a big decision. It deserves time; time to talk and listen; time to explore and learn; and time to confirm the love that binds on this journey of marriage.
Marriage in the Catholic Church is also a Sacrament, a fully human sign of love, a sign for all that God is present among us. This sign is much needed in our world today and our Church’s recognition of the marriage of this couple is vital to our Church.